Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Question time...

Maureen Dowd, an op-ed columnist for the Times asks an interesting question - Did the feminist revolution end up benefiting men more than women? Well, if one goes by the results of a recent survey, (that had tracked Americans’ mood since 1972) women are getting gloomier and men are getting happier. She has some cogent reasons...

When women stepped into male- dominated realms, they put more demands — and stress — on themselves. If they once judged themselves on looks, kids, hubbies, gardens and dinner parties, now they judge themselves on looks, kids, hubbies, gardens, dinner parties — and grad school, work, office deadlines and meshing a two-career marriage.
... The more important things that are crowded into their lives, the less attention women are able to give to each thing. Add this to the fact that women are hormonally more complicated and biologically more vulnerable. Women are much harder on themselves than men. They tend to attach to other people more strongly, beat themselves up more when they lose attachments, take things more personally at work and pop far more antidepressants.
...Another daunting thing: America is more youth and looks obsessed than ever, with an array of expensive cosmetic procedures that allow women to be their own Frankenstein Barbies. Men can age in an attractive way while women are expected to replicate — and Restylane — their 20s into their 60s. Buckingham says that greater prosperity has made men happier. And they are also relieved of bearing sole responsibility for their family finances, and no longer have the pressure of having women totally dependent on them. Men also tend to fare better romantically as time wears on. There are more widows than widowers, and men have an easier time getting younger mates.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Again proves that being a woman isn't easy, but is she suggesting that women were happier being bare foot, pregnant and not in the work force??

Sunil said...

I do not think that is what she is suggesting - the implication is that women of today shoulder a much greater set of responsibilities so much so that they strive to efficiently juggle/execute them; whose end result might lead them to feeling a little more down than they felt 20-40 years ago. That said, if the same set of responsibilities were to be thrust on men, I would expect the same result (and less efficiency....)